Thursday, September 20, 2012

Reconnective Healing: An interview with Eric Pearl

Today, I interviewed Eric Pearl, author of The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself a very interesting book that recounts how through an extraordinary series of events he went from being a chiropractor to being a conduit for some remarkably powerful healings. Although reluctant at first, he now teaches how to do these healings to others all over the world with extraordinary results by entraining others into these new frequencies of information, light and energy. You can view the video below in which I ask Eric questions on the benefits of Reconnective Healing, its history and some of the scientific research that has been done on it.

Eric Pearl will be teaching in London this week, so if you are in the area I recommend going to check out his Friday night presentation, which only costs £9. And if you feel inspired to go deeper into the work and actually learn to do reconnective healing yourself, consider attending his Level I/II seminar, which he will be teaching on Saturday and Sunday. 

Attend Eric Pearl's The Essence of Healing Presentation in London, United Kingdom
September 21st, 2012, 7:00pm - 10:00pm
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Attend Eric Pearl's Level I/II Seminar: Reconnective Healing in London, United Kingdom
September 21st, 22nd and 23rd 2012
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The Kia Oval
Surrey County Cricket Club
Kennington, London
SE11 5SS

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Saturday, May 26, 2012

Law of Attraction and Non-Duality: A contradiction?

If you have been around spiritual circles over the last 5 years, I am sure you have heard of the law of attraction, which was highly popularized by the 2006 movie The Secret. And I am sure you are aware of the explosion of spiritual gurus and teachers of the law of attraction ever since then. The basic idea is simple: think positive, good-feeling thoughts and the universe will bring into your physical experience matching positive, good-feeling things for you to observe. So if you want the fancy car or the wonderful romantic relationship, think thoughts that are a vibrational match to how you imagine those things will make you feel and then you will draw those things into your experience. There are slight variations to how various teachers give expression to this, but roughly that is the main idea.

Non-duality on the other hand seems to say something very different. There are again slight variations among different non-dual paths, but overarching them seems to be the theme that it is important to accept reality the way it is. And it is only by accepting reality the way it is that we can open up to wholeness, divinity, enlightenment. Consequently, if you are upset about your car breaking down, accept that your car has broken down and accept that you are upset about it. But this seems to go against what the law of attraction people say: change the way you think about the situation so that you aren’t negatively focused or if you are unable to do that just focus on something else. Actively trying to change the way you think doesn’t sound like accepting the situation the way it is, and focusing on something else almost sounds like an encouragement to dissociate from reality and live in some imaginary fantasy land instead.

Because of this tension and apparent contradiction, I found it very difficult to come to terms with the law of attraction material. It felt like to me that either the law of attraction people had it wrong and were just a bunch of misguided wishful thinking gurus or there was a piece of the puzzle that was missing to make sense of it all. My questions or prayers got answered by a combination of a deeper understanding of non-duality and a much better and more subtle understanding of the law of attraction material. The latter is in great deal thanks to the so called Abraham-Hicks material, a refreshingly clear exposition of the law of attraction by Esther & Jerry Hicks. This deeper and clearer understanding of both subjects did not come overnight and I believe all in all it took me about two years to achieve. For although I understood or thought I understood that from a non-dual perspective there is nothing wrong with working on your personal psychology and changing the way you think or feel about certain things, I felt that all of that psychological work ultimately seemed a bit superfluous and what was really important was to awaken. Furthermore, although the audiobooks by Esther & Jerry Hicks made a lot more sense to me than The Secret and I enjoyed listening to them immensely, I continued feeling this tension between being with reality the way it is and the desire to change things and make things better. I took a very non-dual approach to all this. I allowed myself to vividly feel and experience the tension between these seemingly opposite approaches to spirituality. I held onto these questions in my awareness whilst also being mindful of not rushing to find a solution to this apparent contradiction. What emerged from that holding of opposites surprised me. I had failed to realize how non-dual the non-dual approach actually is. Here I was trying to find fault or at least futility with the law of attraction approach, when I realized that all of these law of attraction processes for changing the way you think and the way you feel are actually contributing to awakening to greater wholeness. It seems paradoxical, because if we are already whole and we just need to awaken to this, then there is no real point in trying to change ourselves. So why even bother? However, the law of attraction processes as well as any other form of psychological work is actually making us more prone to open up to wholeness and is thus perfectly compatible with a non-dual approach. Psychological work alone may keep you stuck in the realm of the personal if you become entranced by the constant quest for self improvement, however the psychological work is also what enables us to have a sufficiently strong foundation to even begin the process of awakening.

Interestingly, both the non-dual approach and the law of attraction approach ultimately seek to bring us back to greater wholeness and joy. The law of attraction work emphasizes changing the way you think so that you can feel better and by changing the way you think to experience better feeling thoughts. And then by experiencing better feeling thoughts you end up more connected and aligned with the broader perspective of who you truly are. In other words, by doing the work of feeling better you actually end up opening up to the wholeness of you you are. The non-dual work approaches this through spiritual practices that directly challenge the personal only perspective. And as the personal only perspective gets more and more challenged and makes more and more space for the impersonal, it brings people back to the wholeness of who they are through that route.

So does that mean that the difference is merely methodological? Yes and No. Both approaches end up in the long run bringing people back to wholeness. And at least from the perspective of the Abraham-Hicks material that is actually the goal. It’s not about the stuff, it is about living a more happy, joyous life. And the vast majority of the techniques offered to do so are for the most part at the level of personality, which is very different from the non-dual way. There is however another very striking difference besides just the methodology and that is the audiences that these two topics attract. I would dare say that the majority of people attracted to law of attraction type material are drawn to it at least initially because they believe that it will enable them to have the fancy car, the wonderful house, the gorgeous mate and all these other things that they believe will make them feel better when they get them. In comparison though, people who are drawn to buddhism, zen, advaita and other non-dual spiritual paths are generally more inclined to be seeking enlightenment or some form of ultimate self-realization. And for some of these people, there may even be a certain aversion or disdain of material wealth, because they erroneously believe that having such things is not spiritual and that having them or even just desiring them is an impediment to self-realization. The way I look at things now, maybe the universe has opened up these seemingly very different approaches to returning to wholeness precisely because the one size fits all approach doesn’t work. The world is a wonderfully messy place, so it makes sense that the business of returning to God would also be wonderfully messy. I would like to end this for now with an old Sufi proverb: “There are as many paths to god as there are souls on earth.”

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Friday, April 20, 2012

What is Non-Duality?

In recent months, more and more people have asked me: What is non-duality? And for a long time, I had struggled myself with answering that question, for although I have been actively engaged with non-dual spiritual practices for many years now, it wasn't completely self evident how to articulate that coherently to someone who hasn't been engaged with these practices for some time. In fact, one of my many spiritual teachers once told me that it usually takes about 7 years of doing these practices before you can really get a handle on communicating this in words to other people. And despite these difficulties, I think this is an incredibly important topic for people to learn about as it is through this type of work that we are able to return to wholeness and awaken to who we truly are! So here is my answer based on my current understanding of the subject...

First, it is good to have some understanding of what is meant by duality. And the most basic idea behind duality is the idea that things are separate. In other words, there is you and there is me. There is that rock and there is that tree and they are all distinct and separate. There is a lack of sense of wholeness to everything, rather there is just a disparate collection of things. Furthermore, because everything is separate, there is a very strong subject-object split.

Non-dualism on the other hand is the idea that things appear distinct while not being separate. In other words, it still makes sense to make a distinction between the tree and the rock or between you and me for practical reasons, but at the same time there is an awareness that everything is part of a greater Whole. And because everything is one, there is a much softer subject-object split or none at all according to some traditions.

In terms of practical spirituality though, many people drawn to advaita, buddhism and other non-dual paths come to it at least in the beginning because they believe that they will be able to transcend the ego and live in some idealized enlightened state where they don't have any problems anymore. I however believe this to be a misconception based partly on a misunderstanding as to what non-duality is and partly on the very human and understandable hope that we might be able to end suffering for ourselves.

The misunderstanding results from believing that being in a non-dual state means that we are in this transcendent state of unitive consciousness and have left duality behind us. However, non-duality is actually all inclusive. It is in fact so inclusive that it includes duality. In other words, true non-dual consciousness includes both the awareness of the transcendent and the awareness of ourselves as individuals with personalities, a personal history and all the limitations of being a human being. And the whole point of this is that when we expand our consciousness to go beyond the merely personal and feel the wholeness of everything that is whilst not losing sight of the perspective from the personal, then without any effort at all we cannot help but be much kinder to ourselves and all of our limitations and be kinder to everybody else and all of their limitations. We awaken into wholeness and cannot help but be compassionate.

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Sunday, July 10, 2011

The Quest for Happiness: Money & Happiness

Almost everything we do seems to be in the pursuit of happiness. We go to the gym and exercise to be in good health. And why do we want to be in good health? Because good health is a precondition for happiness or so we believe. We work hard in our respective professions and improve our skills in various ways because we believe that professional success will lead to happiness. We look for great friends and passionate relationships in the name of happiness. We may feel tempted to call shallow those who seek happiness by purchasing Aston Martin cars and Gucci bags, but looking for happiness in relationships, careers and achievements is really not that different. In all cases, it is a search for happiness by looking for something outside ourselves. Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against striving for good health, loving relationships and professional success. These are all very worthy goals and I don’t believe we ought to give up on creating these in our lives. In fact, the same goes for nice cars, clothes and other material goods. I don’t believe that there is anything wrong with creating and enjoying material wealth. However, the entrenched belief that happiness comes from these external things is a dangerous delusion.

The most publicized version of this misconception is in the context of money and happiness. Most of us have heard stories in the media of fabulously wealthy individuals who are nevertheless very miserable and who are in need of antidepressants just to cope. The most natural conclusion to draw from this would be that money does not necessarily lead to happiness. However, my sense is that many of us refuse to draw that conclusion and instead of revising our belief about money and happiness, we prefer to believe that more money will lead to happiness and that the reason that person is miserable is because there is something seriously wrong with them. In others words, that person is unhappy because he is crazy and abnormal. Any normal person with that amount of money would of course be happy. This allows us to maintain our psychological status quo, thus enabling us to continue striving for more money in hope that it will someday yield happiness. As tempting as that interpretation might be, it doesn’t hold water. Research shows that above a certain level, there is almost no correlation between money and happiness. In other words, as long as there is enough money for food, shelter and other basic necessities, adding more income does not necessarily add more happiness.

At first sight, this may sound like discouraging news: if money doesn’t create more happiness, then what’s point? However, in reality, this realization sets things straight and creates a much healthier relationship to money. Money is a wonderful tool that allows us to buy things we want and sell our talents or products to others. It is a vehicle for the exchange of energy in the form of goods and services, nothing more and nothing less. And when we truly understand this, we know that there is nothing inherently wrong with generating more money, but we are also not entranced by the belief that if we work twice as hard and sacrifice a few friendships, then we will make some more money, which will make us finally happy.

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